Our faith speaks of different stages for wedding prep: remote, proximate, and immediate. In most cases by the time couples approach the parish for wedding planning they are already engaged to be married and have all but settled upon the date. At that point the parish will begin the immediate stage of preparation, that is, the final stage or what should be the "finishing touches" of the wedding prep process. Ideally, the preparation for marriage should begin for individuals long before that, at more remote and proximate stages, helping to form the heart and mind as early as infancy and continuing through early adulthood.
That's where I need the help of all of you – in helping our children to learn about the meaning and vocation of marriage at an early age. Here is a link to an article written by Catholic writer Simcha Fisher. It is titled, "So What SHOULD We Tell Our Kids About Sex?" Below is only some of the advice she gives, but you should read the whole article:
Love is a gift of self. Affection and desire go along with love, but love itself means caring for another person's well-being... The way you show love to your boyfriend or girlfriend is not the same way as you show love to your spouse.
We speak with our bodies. This means it is also possible to tell lies with our bodies. Being sexually intimate with someone says that you have exchanged binding vows of fidelity with them. If you haven't made these vows, you must not act as if you have.
Sex is very, very much about babies, among other things. Learn and internalize the phrase "unitive and procreative." Teens should learn enough about a woman's cycle to make the clear connection that the reproductive system really is geared toward procreation.
Sex forms bonds, whether the people engaged in it acknowledge this or not – emotional, psychological, spiritual, and scientifically proven chemical bonds. You do not want to form that bond before you're married, because it will hurt like Hell to break that bond once it's formed.
It's possible to ruin sex for yourself. If you keep forming a bond and then breaking it over and over again, eventually the "tape" is no longer "sticky."
Premarital sex hurts you both, even if you marry the person you had it with. If you never learn self-control before marriage, it will be very difficult to learn it afterward. Moreover, sex that comes before commitment makes the entire relationship muddy and messy.
I wish I had the space to print the whole article. Check it out and let’s prepare the next generation for the joy of pure and holy married life.